Do you know Jim Rohn once said,
“You are the average of five people with whom you keep company and spend the most time with.”
Believe it or not, this statement is quite factually correct.
The very five people that we engage ourselves with shape the personality we have. We start behaving like them, we try to imitate their looks, and we even make decisions based on what we think they would want us to make. This is how other people influence our lives and push us to be better versions of ourselves.
The best example which I can share here is the one where you become fat, just because a close family member, a best friend or a spouse doesn’t care much about exercising and eats a lot, you can also have the same impact and become like them. It all depends upon how strong you are to get influenced by the people around you.
Now, this is not always a bad thing. You can also be surrounded by people who have a great impact on your life and make you a better person.
These are the kind of relationships that we should all aspire to have.
So who are these people and how should we cherry-pick them? What will be their impact on our lives? Can we change the people around us? Can we make them more like how we percept them?
This article will answer all your queries.
The Fastest Way to Success is Surrounding Yourself Who Are Better Than You
If you want to grow and stop being lazy all the time, then you have to decide whom you’re going to surround yourself with. The people with whom you keep company play a pivotal role in your growth. You will only become as successful as the people you choose to associate with on a regular basis.
We all want to become the big dog in our lives; it satisfies us when we are known as the biggest earning hand in our family, group of friends or even our colleagues. But this can often be a silly mistake. By doing so, you will only cap your capability to grow exponentially. Therefore, always choose people who are doing better than you in their lives, and financially.
Why? It’s because when you surround yourself with such individuals, they will inadvertently pull you up to their level. You will adopt their habits, which eventually become your own set of habits – good ones.
You might think that you don’t need other people to succeed and that you can go at it all alone, but this is a flawed way of thinking. The fact is, nobody ever succeeds all by themselves. We all need other people to help us along the way and provide guidance, mentorship and support.
Finding a Mentor To Keep You Positive & Motivated
It has been seen that lazy people tend to stick together and continue being lazy because it is their comfort zone. Whereas, focused & productive individuals do not make excuses or procrastinate.
The best way to break out of this cycle is to find yourself a mentor – somebody who is where you want to be in life. This person will help you stay focused and motivated, and will provide guidance when you need it the most. A mentor is not necessarily somebody who knows you personally; they can also be somebody who you look up to from afar.
The most important thing is that they possess the qualities and traits that you want to develop in yourself. When you have somebody to look up to, it gives you something to strive for. It gives you a sense of direction and purpose.
If you don’t have a mentor at the moment, start looking for one.
Stay Away from Negative People. Limiting Association with Them is Profitable.
Negative people can often lead to unseen circumstances.
But what to do if they are an immediate part of your family or maybe a close association such as your spouse, friend, or business partner? These people are unavoidable so you have to be with them.
The first step is to limit their impact on you as much as possible.
You can start by spending less time with them. Whether it’s in person or online, always try to avoid getting into conversations about negative things. If you see that the conversation is becoming somewhat negative, try to steer the whole thing to a positive topic.
People don’t tend to be toxic. But they are often influenced by the toxicity of some thought or person. If you find that someone is constantly bringing you down, try to distance yourself from them as much as possible. Sometimes, it’s just not worth your time and energy to try and change them; it’s better to just move on and focus on people who will bring out the best in you.
How to Surround Yourself with the Right People?
The right people are often busy and preoccupied in their lives. They are focused on achieving their goals and seldom involve themselves in conversations or activities that don’t contribute to their growth.
The first step is to be clear about your goals and what you want to achieve in life. Once you have a clear vision, it becomes easier to identify the right people to associate with. These are the people who will help you achieve your goals and reach new levels of success.
- Now attend gatherings & meetings where you can find like-minded individuals.
- Visit different places, talk to different people and see how you can add value to their lives.
- Focus on adding more motivated people to life and start seeking the right people.
- If you can’t find mentors in real life, find them on audio, video or books.
Because the more time you spend surrounded by the right kind of people, the better it is for you.